System vs Person

System is very flexible and creates the space for everyone. Life does not appear to be a straight line. Most of the times it happens only in movies that a bad guy is always punished. In real life, bad guys prosper. Ironically system leaves space for them. 'Good' guys take reverse turn to give more space for the powerful. Every person plays a character in this play. In the indian society, social bonds are enormous. Because of that, sometimes, persons who don't perform, become the responsibilty of their near and dears. This social umbrella looks good at its very first sight. In some means it also is. It gives social security to a commoner. However every good thing has its black spots too.

And in this case, a person who does not perform.... The helplessness in a male dominated society becomes a curse for women. Good things dont prosper always. And in this case many good souls die without saying anything.

Priyanka

The question is, whether somebody needs to be extraordinary in some of the defined disciplines. The personality cannot be defined in some well defined curricatures. A small town girl could create such an impact on distant guests that after going from here they just remembered one name, that is Priyanka. That friend even started to think for naming his new composition (the emotions for which were derived from the visit) as Priyanka. Hmm...I started to take notice. What is it all about. A very ordinary conventional girl could create such an impact. And it was all without any predefined notions about a great personality. The human warmth, the sensitivity, the hospitality and the zeal to convey those raw emotions without any hesitation and that too after knowing that they wont be able to understand her language was simply mindblowing for sometime. So, looking into that profile one would just start thinking that the girl has a great future...But..does she really have it???

A Letter

Came to know your circumstances.
I am sure, it must be an unfortunate news for you.
All I can only say right now is, something was missing because of which it could not materialise.
Actually I am not from a school of thought which says it happened because of sheer bad luck.

Everything is in our hands.
So, just be patient.
And I don't think that this is an end of the story.
Life goes on. Just have faith on yourself.
I believe that 'Whatever happens, happens only for good".
Every disaster can just show you numerous paths (options) which are unexplored.
Right now, you are just thinking in terms of MBA.
But do you think, being an MBA (or not) is the end of world.
World is full of oppurunities, many - 2 unexplored ones.
And, if you just believe in yourself, you can lead to an unexplored path which can give you much better satisfaction than MBA>>>>>

Why Krishna says 'Just do your Karma as the fruit is not in your hand".
Because Trishna (desire) gives sheer pain, nothing else.
Why don't you think, that whatever I did was in my capacity. If it did not materialise, so be it...There are many other options.

Aur bhagya ke oopar agar lagataar kudaal chalate rahoge, to aakhir kab tak ichchit fal nahin milega.
So, what I would like to say is to be prepared with another task.

Just concentrate on yourself. Things that you can do in better way.

Also on your strengths and your limitations.
This part is very - very important.
Try to see if the task is too difficult (where probability of being successful is very less). If it is, you'll have to remember that there might be a chance of failure too.
You can try your best. But the probable might not always be a success. So be prepare for that.
And then its later course of action. What if it is not successful.

But to be on the safer side, my advice is always to recognize your strong points, weaker points and limitations too.
Don't do anything which is outside your capabilities.
Everybody is not perfact. Some people excell in something and others in something else.
So, a Dhiru Bhai Ambani was a Matric fail, but was a genius in business and business relationships.
Amitabh Bachchan was a total failure upto an age of 29-31 and became a genius only in later days.

So, your age is not end of the road.
Just try to see your options.
Think about them and venture on them
Just have a faith on yourself.

Sthitpragya darshan - my experience

Today I will talk about a 'darshan (philosophy)' which you need the most at this moment. This Darshan has been taken from Geeta and is called 'Sthitpragya Darshan' There can be many interpretation of this. But here is what what I felt from my own experience. The person who remains the same in the moments of 'Sukh (joy)' and 'Dukh (sorrow)' is called Sthitpragya. Woh in cheejon se pare hota hai (He is outside of any defined definitions).

Lets talk about a real scenario
The world is full of evil. Isn't it. Let's accept it

Evil cannot be defined in terms of a person or a creed
It can be inside each individual. Whenever time and circumstances prevails, aadmi ka ganda chehra dikhayee dene lagta hai (we see the evil face of the human)

Another scenario...
There are people who do the bad things...most of the times
In real life you will see them as problem creators... people who feel jealous from another, using people for sex or money.

As a matter of fact you will see them as negative waves which might hurt a lot ...a lot
And you will be pondering on those...why did he do that and then it can cause depression too. Like...why dont they accept my own identity or why did he/she said such things to me.

Some persons dont know what they are doing
as their whole life is involved in such bad things
you cannot change them. Period.

Then question arise whats the solution...
They are going to do what they are doing...forever
Hmm...now, how do we care for ourselves...

The solution is to feel mercy on them...
Sometimes we have to consider them as pscychological patients who need mercy than hatred. Lets accept the truth.

They are not going to change
They will keep on sending their negative waves as they dont know what they are doing. And you cannot change them too.

So...how to deal with these negative waves...
One solution is...to take them as they come...which most often people do
They take these negative waves on their heart and in that process get hurt
even if they know...that person is like that only.

We try to become brave...and try to let it come on the heart
the result is the destruction and it shows when person gets hurt...
and goes into a shell

The question is....is it possible to change 'poison' to amrit
The negative waves remain negative...even if you try to analyse them from different angles..
So...becoming brave and taking these nagative waves at heart....is not a solution....
The solution is to avoid them....
let them go....and duck these waves
and keep on sending positive waves
Sthipragya person is like Sun
who keeps on sending positive waves...
without interruption
continuosly

who always tries to think something positive for others....
even if those people...try to do something bad to him
He...avoids their negative waves....
but keep on sending the positive waves...
without any interruption :-)

thinking....that they are doing what they are supposed to do
and i am doing...what i am supposed to do
in process...it might happen...that those people might change....

Those negative waves are satiated with their positive waves...
because har ek evil mein bhee human angle hota hai (as every evil person has a human angle too)
and that might turn on when he just gets love...even in response of hatred.


So my dear Friend!
Try to become Sthitpragya
You might say...That its not practical
and its not possible for human
I think everything is possible
we try to give excuses to ourselves...
and dont even try for it


door se kaaphi saari cheejein...difficult dikhayee deti hain
par jaise-2 paas aao...
aur un par amal karna shuru karo
wahi cheejein....
aasaan lagne lagti hain
Jo karneeya hai....
wahi karne ka hai (From very far most of the things looks difficult.
But as you come near to them...start practising them...they become easier.You have to do whatever is supposed to be done.)
Think about it