Saturday, May 14, 2011

It's just business

Chandan: Hey. how are you?

J. Raja: I'm good. how have you been?

Chandan: jo suna hai sach hai kya?

J. Raja: ??

Chandan: u joined Future Constructions

J. Raja: yep ..

Chandan: nice

J. Raja: doesn't mean you should stop talk to me .. ;-)

Chandan: just...wondering ki kispe bharosa karoon kispe nahin

J. Raja: oh cmon, i joined them in June .. and had no such plans back in Jan/Feb

Chandan: what about ur those talks...about what people already thought about when u resigned...

I have no problems in your joining with any company...but it looks like I misjudge sometimes :-)

J. Raja: Which talks are you referring to? :-) I don't think I have been contradictory and there are 3-4 things going on and my association with Future Constructions is one of them

Chandan: People already told that u will join them...and me only trust on what u said

J. Raja: At that time, I had no plans on "joining" here. I served out my notice period with sincerity in my work. I didn't "join" Future Constructions to get back at Lakshman Associates.

My association with Future Constructions is more complex than you think.


Chandan: Raja...it has nothing to do about ur intention...I don’t care about good or bad intentions. It was just my trust...thats it.

Trust on what u said...at the time when you were in problems


J. Raja: I can understand where you're coming from. I hope your perception of me can change although I can't force that to happen. :-)

like the quote from The Godfather "It's just business" .. hehe

nice talking to you..am off to Kashmir tomorrow on my vacations .. cant wait!


Chandan: Ok. take care and good luck!

J. Raja: thanks..

Monday, May 09, 2011

Some Important Fundas of Life

Vivek: Jab se Dubai main aaya hoon, tension nahi hai.

Me: Umra ke saath samajh badhti hai :P

Vivek: No its not so simple..In old age people are in more tension

But then I thought enough is enough and no more tension. So I made a decision that no one can hurt me anymore and i will not be sad whatever the case be. So I am happy since then J

Me: sahi hai beta...bada guru mantra seekh liya hai...

kuchch mujhe bhi sikha de

Vivek: Duniya bahut karab hai yaar, people are not happy to see your happy face

Me: Duniya aisi hi thi dost shuru se

Tere ko galat family hai

Vivek: They will sympathize you when you r in trouble and drive a sadistic sort of pleasure out of it.

Me: As I said...it was already there before too

Vivek: Yeah, but it took some time for me to realize that

I can understand what you mean as you saw all in front of your eyes

You were able to judge people well in advance but i am not

Me: Not only that...if u see past movies for instance the role of Gurudutt’s brothers in Pyasa.

U will see those instance 60-70 years back too

So to me duniya doesn’t change

Though we interpret it to be changing

For me Mahabharata is still the default truth.

In everyday life u can see that

In today’s world...one has to become Krishna

Ram bans rahne se hamesha kaam nahin chalta

Vivek: Yes, you are right, it is all there in same ratio

But you see I never judge anybody’s background, caste, religion etc. If you are good to me I will be good to you too. That was my thinking.

Me: Continue…

Vivek: But later i see it does matter

In L&T Chennai I saw, they always gave preference to Tamilians even if the guy is a poor performer.

So much nepotism and favoritism

Here in Dubai I found Keralaite have similar culture

They make a wall around themselves and behave with non-Keralite as if we don't belong to them

Even if you ask them are u from India, his response will be no i am from Kerala

So it looked strange in the beginning but later I realized the whole world is like that.

From there side still I feel it may be their thinking but I will not change myself but will be more cautious on case to case basis.

Me: For me there are some fundamental rules...

Vivek: What are those rules?

Me: I don’t change my fitrat just because world is changing

Vivek: Go ahead..

Me: People say many a times that because world is changing u should also change...

But to me that doesn’t work

Vivek: To me also..

That is why i said i will not change myself..!!

Me: For instance, sometimes some say those guys didn’t help u why u want to help them

Me: For me it’s simple...they did what they thought right and I am doing what it seem to me right

Another rule is -

Patra and Kupatra

U share your knowledge or help those people whom u feel are Patra of ur help

Otherwise some people will complain ki why are u interfering in their life

Vivek: Okay

yaah..They may think that way

Me: Also if u help kupatra who doesn’t respect ur help and ur good thinking, or doesn’t respond with some actions

It’s again a waste

Vivek: Agreed!!!

Me: Today’s life...is full of instances where you feel ur situation as of Arjuna in Mahabharata

There may be relatives, friends and near and dears

Who take wrong direction...

If that happens, u have to take hard decisions of life

Vivek: I did not get this point..

Me: The point is - Moh in real life will make u weak

Either u be weak or be on the side of Dharma always

Vivek: Yes , you have to play the role of Arjuna

Me: But it's easy to talk about being Arjuna, but very difficult to be Arjuna in real life

Vivek: For Arjuna also it was not easy

The whole Gita got written just to convince him

Me: But yet again it’s very important to be Krishna and that should answer all ur questions

Vivek: Agreed

Other rule pl..

Me: Last rule is Sthitpragya Darshan

Vivek: Explain pl

Me: Take a look at http://vashishthask.blogspot.com/2005/05/sthitpragya-darshan-my-experience.html

Vivek: I am reading it now